The best wedding gift is a truly joyful wedding – and it’s something you can give yourself.

Most women have a vision of the perfect wedding.

• Big church wedding or small, private ceremony
• Mendelsohn or Top 40
• Gothic or Hello Kitty theme

It’s all in your head. What might not be in there are the tools to deal with issues along the way.   What to do when:

• Your fitter says you look fat in your wedding dress
• Your grandfather refuses to attend unless all his descendants – down to third cousins – are invited to your tiny, intimate affair
• Your florist wants to substitute flowers in the beautiful centerpiece you approved

These things happen. But they’re just bumps in the road. They shouldn’t derail your happiness on the way to the Big day. The best way to get past them is to learn to be your own best advocate, negotiating your way to what you need and want without upsetting yourself or others.

A wedding has deep meaning for everyone  involved (even the difficult grandfather!), and planning one is an emotionally charged, sometimes overwhelming thing. It gets even tougher when your plans don’t line up perfectly with, say, your future mother-in-law’s, or when a vendor’s bad attitude or not-quite-right service take away from your joy. I can help you with this.

Satisfying the needs of your loved ones while voicing and standing up for your own opinions is a tricky balance. It’s especially hard when planning a wedding, because planning a wedding just isn’t something you do every day. Wedding planners can help, but even wedding professionals can benefit from better understanding and communication – with the brides, and with other vendors.

FOR BRIDES

Weddings are no time for feeling anger, frustration, or disappointment. I believe that love = fun, and weddings should be the most fun of all. In fact, I love weddings so much my husband  promised me five weddings – and with two down, I can’t wait for the next one.

My work, my honor really, is teaching brides to successfully navigate the inevitable challenges that come with a wedding, and preserve special relationships while removing obstacles with confidence and a positive attitude. You don’t have to be a bridezilla to get your way, and you should never be a doormat. It’s possible to be calm and totally in control while creating the wedding you deserve.

Being assertive doesn’t mean being aggressive or hurtful. I’ve made a study of wedding stress.  What brides tell me they want (and maybe you do, too) is:
• A fresh, objective opinion that helps them better assess their unique situations and suggests ideas to solve their personal challenges;

• The ability to move forward calmly;

• A better understanding of other perspectives;

• The ability to negotiate confidently and achieve their goals;

• A safe place to vent their frustration and anxiety with the process without burning relationships or stepping on other peoples’ toes.

Bridal Coaching is  different than wedding planning.  I’m here to help deal with auper-charged emotions, own your voice and how to use it wisely and kindly.  I can’t promise you every day will be like your wedding day. But I can promise you confidence and peace of mind – and the tools that will help you resolve life conflicts long after the last thank-you note is written.

I invite you to look around the site and get acquainted.  Check out which bridal coaching service is right for you.  And why not listen to our Bride Summit as my guest!

FOR WEDDING PROFESSIONALS

My training sessions can be invaluable to wedding professionals, too. You cater to brides, but who’s helping you? I can help wedding planners, florists, caterers, photographers, salon owners and any wedding professional who’s passionate about fulfilling a couple’s dreams to work through the inevitable conflicts without compromising  their clients’ special day.

Not sure if coaching will work for your business? No worries.  Schedule a complimentary 20 minute “get acquainted” meeting using my contact form, and we’ll discuss how Positively Wed can be that special tool in your wedding emergency toolkit.

Love = Fun. Your wedding should, too!